Wow, I can't believe it's been so long since I posted!
Master C is doing well, although I still can't believe he'll be 2 this year in August!
He's gone from walking to running, he can climb very well; throws a few tantrums but nothing major, and he LOVES to eat! Fortunately it includes healthy things like grapes, bananas, apples, pears, vegemite sandwiches on grain bread.... my bubba loves his food.
His vocabulary consists of about 50 words at the moment, including
Mummy, Daddy, Ash (Daddy's name!), Car, Cuck (Truck), Puppy, Barbie, Baby, Pease (Please), "Uh oh" (the current favourite), Wheeee!, Whereisshe? (said VERY often when Miss M is at school!), Uncle, Juice..... and many more.
He has very distinct sounds and actions for yes and no. A short "uh" is yes. A long "uhhh" coupled with a turning-away of the head is no.
Miss M is doing a lot better at school.
Her behaviour is mostly under control, and she is doing well. She has fewer meltdowns, because I'm starting to figure out her triggers and avoid them.
She usually melts down at the restaurant, so we haven't been there for weeks. Today we went there for ice cream, and she was very well behaved and calm.
She was skipping class (yes, my child in Grade 1). She was hiding in the playground at the end of lunch and not going back into class. So something at school seems to be bothering her, because every single morning I get the "I don't wanna go to school!" crap from her. But she's not the sort of kid who just "doesn't want to".... she always has a reason even if it's not yet known.
So we have her at a behavioural optometrist on Friday afternoon, will update you and let you know how she goes.
Having L & S over for dinner tomorrow night, really looking forward to it. L & S are Ash and my "couple-friends"... they're awesome awesome awesome people, very supportive and non-judgmental. I was fortunate to meet them and become friends with them, because they never judge my parenting with Miss M.
I deleted my entire family off Facebook last week. I did it because sometimes it's nice to vent my spleen without having to worry about the "gossip" getting back to my mother... she's not on Facebook, and hates people knowing "dirty laundry", and particularly hates me talking about "personal stuff" on Facebook.
I also made a comment about how I need supportive people around me right now while I"m dealing with Miss M's issues, and made a comment along the lines of
"I hate how some people complain about my kid, and things she does, when they have sooky whiny kids who they think are perfect"..... a family member believed I was talking about his children. Whoops.
I actually wasn't talking about his kids, although in the past they have been sooky and whiny. So have mine. So have most kids in the world! But apparently pointing it out is a "Taboo Subject", one of those many social things that don't quite make sense to me.
Apparently I'm also a hypocrite, because I say bad things about other people's kids but can't handle bad things being said about my kids.
Not true.
I have no problem with people pointing out my kids' flaws in a CONSTRUCTIVE way, but calling Miss M a "bad kid" is incorrect. She's not a bad kid, she has issues that need to be dealt with and I'm doing the best job I can.
I'm aware that I have very little tact. Some would say that I lack tact entirely. But that's always been a quality that has been a blessing rather than a curse. I don't lie, so I will always answer honestly - a trait that most people lack. I'm still learning how to be subtle and use tact. Close friends and good friends of mine understand that it's not something that comes naturally to me, and they understand that.
I'm not sure why my family have overreacted to my deleting them off Facebook. I figured I was under no obligation to have them on Facebook. They're not friends, they are family. I don't dislike them, but I'm also not that close to them. We are very different people.
Was I wrong to delete them off Facebook?
I don't know.
Tuesday 27 March 2012
Monday 5 March 2012
Emotional issue - is my child "normal"?
I'm at my wit's end with Miss M..
This morning she wouldn't let my brother out of the house to go to work (he leaves at 6am, and she kept following him down the drive, and kept doing it every time he'd bring her back inside and tell her she had to stay inside)... and then she stood in front of the door. Being that my brother's not the sharpest tool in the shed (he has learning difficulties, which also affects his maturity and reasoning), he didn't think to wake us up to deal with her, so he ended up being late for work. She's also been going into Master C and my brother's room and waking them up between 4 and 5am every morning for the past few weeks, no matter what we threaten or say.
Her teacher came and spoke to me at the end of school today, her and one of the twins in her class (a boy) were found missing at the start of class after recess... they were found hiding in the playground. They both got in trouble.
The teacher's also realised what I was talking about with Miss M last year, with her behavioural problems. They're coming out at school now instead of just at home.
My mums answer to this is that I should ease up on her at home, and stop being so strict. I don't see how that can work, because there's just so much silly stuff she does, like running from each end of the house to the other end and hitting the wall, and then going back and forth and back and forth and back and forth - or not sharing with her brother when the toys they're playing with are HIS, and not going to bed on time, blah blah blah. Usual kid stuff, but she fights me at every turn.
Her teacher is now seeing the misbehaving, not concentrating, not sitting still, not listening, and being defiant. It's kinda nice, because she can now see what I was talking about and that it wasn't all in my head. But on the flipside, it means it's NOT just me and there's something wrong with her.
Her teacher is going to find out what they can do about getting a behavioural specialist to come into the school and help her, or see if we have to go out of school hours or whatever.
It's been a rather stressful day, and I had to miss night class tonight because I couldn't leave her with my brother. I just didn't trust her to behave and not give him a hard time.
So... yeah. that's been my day in a nutshell. It's been a good one... not.
So after teachers and other parents telling me that my kid is either "naughty", "a bad kid" (yes, she's been called that by other parents before), or "a typical 6 year old" (she's a lot more extreme than that), it seems like someone in authority is finally seeing what I see every day.
This morning she wouldn't let my brother out of the house to go to work (he leaves at 6am, and she kept following him down the drive, and kept doing it every time he'd bring her back inside and tell her she had to stay inside)... and then she stood in front of the door. Being that my brother's not the sharpest tool in the shed (he has learning difficulties, which also affects his maturity and reasoning), he didn't think to wake us up to deal with her, so he ended up being late for work. She's also been going into Master C and my brother's room and waking them up between 4 and 5am every morning for the past few weeks, no matter what we threaten or say.
Her teacher came and spoke to me at the end of school today, her and one of the twins in her class (a boy) were found missing at the start of class after recess... they were found hiding in the playground. They both got in trouble.
The teacher's also realised what I was talking about with Miss M last year, with her behavioural problems. They're coming out at school now instead of just at home.
My mums answer to this is that I should ease up on her at home, and stop being so strict. I don't see how that can work, because there's just so much silly stuff she does, like running from each end of the house to the other end and hitting the wall, and then going back and forth and back and forth and back and forth - or not sharing with her brother when the toys they're playing with are HIS, and not going to bed on time, blah blah blah. Usual kid stuff, but she fights me at every turn.
Her teacher is now seeing the misbehaving, not concentrating, not sitting still, not listening, and being defiant. It's kinda nice, because she can now see what I was talking about and that it wasn't all in my head. But on the flipside, it means it's NOT just me and there's something wrong with her.
Her teacher is going to find out what they can do about getting a behavioural specialist to come into the school and help her, or see if we have to go out of school hours or whatever.
It's been a rather stressful day, and I had to miss night class tonight because I couldn't leave her with my brother. I just didn't trust her to behave and not give him a hard time.
So... yeah. that's been my day in a nutshell. It's been a good one... not.
So after teachers and other parents telling me that my kid is either "naughty", "a bad kid" (yes, she's been called that by other parents before), or "a typical 6 year old" (she's a lot more extreme than that), it seems like someone in authority is finally seeing what I see every day.
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